There are many things you can do to improve how you feel about yourself and you can begin right away. The cause of having a poor
sense of self lies in early relationships, therefore the ‘cure’ also lies in relationship, relationship with you. However, this relationship is a different one, one where you ease up on yourself, your give yourself a break, and you remind yourself not how you messed up, but instead the focus is on what you did right. This change of focus over time develops self acceptance which is the key to good self esteem.

You may ask ‘How do I do that?’

  • Positive self talk
  • Praise your efforts
  • Treat yourself
  • Rest yourself when you are tired
  • Encourage yourself
  • Treat yourself in a kind way
  • Take ‘time out’ for yourself
  • Be compassionate towards self
  • Stop being hard on yourself and be less rigid and more flexible
  • Learn to say no by knowing your limits
  • Ask for help or support.

On a daily basis, be nicer to yourself in all your actions. Take time to eat healthily, take time to exercise or to meet a friend. Build in something nice just for you, every day even if it’s to listen to music for fifteen minutes, take time for pleasure. In other words, meet your own needs, rather than looking to others to do that for you, only you are responsible for yourself.