Wellbeing

Happiness is being in touch with what is happening within yourself and others.

You can only flourish when you have a good relationship with yourself. Here are some tips to improve how you relate to yourself and others as the more we know ourselves and the more  self aware we become the better we respond to events and those around us.

Are you operating from Well-being?

Your inner world mirrors out into the outside world – how I am with myself, is how I am with others. If I relate to myself in a way that is warm and accepting, the chances are that all my other relationships will be similar. However, if my relationship with self is one that is harsh, critical and unaccepting, my interactions with others will mirror some of the harshness and criticism, therefore we need to begin with ourselves in the development of an accepting way of relating to self, which will improve all our other relationships.

Company Wellness Programs

Whether at work or at home, we are always in relationship, therefore many companies see the benefit in running company wellness programs or ‘Live better’ campaigns as they see the benefit of having a happier workforce.

How to improve your Wellbeing

Are you in touch with your lovability & capability? If not, reconnect with all that you are, who are you not to be capable, acceptable, good enough!

Wellness Plan

Acting Out Responses                                        The challenge is:
  • Being controlling                                              Self Control
  • Being Critical                                                      Becoming Affirming
  • Being harsh                                                         Becoming Kind
  • Being Rigid                                                          Becoming flexible
  • Passive                                                                  Assert self
  • Timid                                                                     Become fearless
  • Perfectionism                                                    See your own perfection
  • Self-harming                                                      Self loving
  • Self-Critical                                                        Becoming self-affirming
  • Blaming self                                                        Believe in yourself
Acting In Responses                                                 The challenge is:

Addictive responses                                       The challenge is:

  • Caring for others only                                    Caring for Self & others
  • Worrying about what others think           Thinking well of yourself
  • Addiction to alcohol                                        Expressing what lies hidden
  • Addiction to food                                             Nurturing yourself
  • Obsession with getting it perfect               Discovering your own perfection

To experience more Well-being in your life, focus on 5:1

We need 5 positives to one negative interaction to flourish or thrive. An example would be a tense exchange requires five positive to negate the negative interaction.  Examples of a positive interaction might be a compliment, a conflict resolved, a positive exchange or feeling appreciated.  3:1 is the minimum to flourish and less than 3:1 you are languishing (Fear/Anger/guilt/sadness etc.)

Well-being: What are the things you can do?

  • Time out for support/supportive networks (Friends/Family)
  • Develop a habit of being grateful – happiness is not having what you want, but wanting what you have
  • Look for what is going right-even when  things are going wrong
  • Mindfulness: Just stop, do nothing, breathe, rest the mind & let go
  • Exercise: 3 times a week proven to alleviate sadness/depression
  • Build realistic optimism: ‘Fake it, till you make it’
  • Connectedness & Engagement make you happy (self/others)
  • Treat yourself – ‘you work hard, you deserve to treat yourself’
  • Focus on what you have done right

It’s not what happens to you it that matters; it’s how you react.  Your reaction is critical in how you meet challenges.

What New Choices will you make?  What new Actions will you take?

Wellness & Wellbeing: How to have it
Happiness is being in touch with what is happening within yourself and others.
You can only flourish when you have a good relationship with yourself.
Know yourself as self awareness is key to managing self and how you respond to events.
Your inner world mirrors out into the outside world
Are you in touch with your lovability & capability? If not, reconnect with all that you are, who are you not to be capable, acceptable, good enough!
Our Defences
Acting Out Responses The challenge is:
• Being controlling Self Control
• Being Critical Becoming Affirming
• Being harsh Becoming Kind
• Being Rigid Becoming flexible
Acting In Responses The challenge is:
• Passive Assert self
• Timid Become fearless
• Perfectionism See your own perfection
• Self-harming Self loving
• Self-Critical Becoming self-affirming
• Blaming self Believe in yourself
Addictive responses The challenge is:
• Caring for others only Caring for Self & others
• Worrying about what others think Thinking well of yourself
• Addiction to alcohol Expressing what lies hidden
• Addiction to food Nurturing yourself
• Obsession with getting it perfect Discovering your own perfection
5:1
We need 5 positives to one negative interaction to flourish or thrive. An example would be a tense exchange requires five positive to negate the negative interaction. Examples of a positive interaction might be a compliment, a conflict resolved, a positive exchange or feeling appreciated. 3:1 is the minimum to flourish and less than 3:1 you are languishing (Fear/Anger/guilt/sadness etc.)
What are the things you can do?

• Time out for support/supportive networks (Friends/Family)
• Develop a habit of being grateful – happiness is not having what you want, but wanting what you have
• Look for what is going right-even when things are going wrong
• Mindfulness: Just stop, do nothing, breathe, rest the mind & let go
• Exercise: 3 times a week proven to alleviate sadness/depression
• Build realistic optimism: ‘Fake it, till you make it’
• Connectedness & Engagement make you happy (self/others)
• Treat yourself – ‘you work hard, you deserve to treat yourself’
• Focus on what you have done right
It’s not what happens to you it that matters; it’s how you react. Your reaction is critical in how you meet challenges.
What New Choices will you make? What new Actions will you take?