When a child/teen is upset a silent hug is all they need.
What to do when a child is upset?
When a child/teen is upset a silent hug is all they need. No words are needed. Why does it work so well? It offers compassion for what they are feeling, a silent ‘holding place’ that ensures they feel supported & that it is ok to feel as they feel at that moment.
The importance of touch in parenting
Children need Touch, it soothes, promotes serotonin, it reduces anger feelings, its a connection when disconnected, even if only a hand on the shoulder to say ‘I’m here, when you’re ready’. Love really does heal. Try it today with your child or teen and see the difference it makes when you make a connection to resolve a disconnection.
The more they resist, the more you persist
Remember, the child who resists your hug or cuddle, just needs it more. Respect that they are not ready if they resist but continue to stay close, to keep connecting and once you resolve the disconnection, they will be open to a connection with you.