Why parent positively? Here's one good reason to think about: Your Child's Self Esteem An act of comparison is ultimately an act of rejection, therefore accept your child for the unique individual they are. They are a once off happening that will never reoccur and your acceptance of them, results in them accepting themselves as [...]
We all want to be a happier parent and to enjoy happier children. 1. Ease up Easing up on yourself and others makes a huge difference in taking the pressure off. When we slow down and let some of the less important things go, we put the focus on the relationship rather than on behaviours. [...]
What mistake do parents make around discipline? Handling a child who is challenging, disruptive and acting up I meet parents on a 1:1 and every week, parents come to me about a child they are struggling with. They say he is disruptive, challenging and he acts up. They also usually say ‘he gets so much [...]
Struggling with Temper Tantrums? Toddler Tantrums A client came back recently to advise that my advice worked on his toddlers temper tantrums which had been challenging to handle. When I asked what in particular had worked, this is what he said: Catch it earlier - before it builds up Distract the toddler Redirect the toddler's [...]
How to deal with conflict better Calm is essential in managing conflict Remain calm and approach calmly, remembering that your tone and your behaviour sets the tone. Therefore, be the change you want to see and if you want your child to calm down, then ask yourself, 'how calm am I?' Be a good role [...]
Katie Holmes and Suri Cruise are in the headlines this week as Katie has filed for divorce from Tom Cruise. Breakup need not mean family breakdown It appears Katie Holmes was becoming increasingly concerned about the effect the Scientology organisation might have on her child. We need remember that marital breakup need not necessarily lead [...]
I just encountered a woman at the supermarket, trying to do a large weekly shop with two toddlers, who seems to be managing well and it reminded me of the importance of being PROACTIVE in our parenting. Steve Covey outlines this concept in his 7 Habit’s book outlines the Habit 1: Be Proactive Be Proactive, [...]
Just imagine you were two or three years of age and you were put out to sit on the Naughty Step by a very agitated parent , how would you feel? When I ask parents this the responses are "Sad, upset, distressed, confused, alone, angry". TIME OUT not working? Is there a better way? I [...]
"You love her more than me! Everything was fine till she came along, now everyone hates me!" Sibling Rivarly: Child feel insecure about being loved Imagine your husband comes home tonight with a tall Swedish blond and says: "You know I love you so much; I decided to get another wife just like you! But [...]
Positive Parenting is about treating your child with respect, listening to their point of view and giving them a sense of being understood. It is about noticing what they have done (rather than what they have not done) and remembering to tell them. What is your parenting style? Are you an overprotective parent? (Living the [...]