Managing children’s challenging behaviours can be very challenging! Understanding Challenging Behaviour I worked with parents yesterday who were struggling to manage their son’s difficult behaviour. Many parents say ‘we have got into a negative spiral’. I asked them to try imagine how their child felt and they said ‘he probably feels constantly criticised and given [...]
What were things like in your family of origin? Many of us came from families where there was a ban on emotional expression. When you were upset, sad or disappointed, you may have found that the response was: ‘You can’t feel like that!’ (Your feeling is dismissed) ‘It’s not that bad!’ (Your feeling is diluted) [...]
Parent is about guiding and teaching and less about discipline. No More Naughty Step or Time Outs According to a recent study featured in Time Magazine, brain scans show that relational pain –that caused by isolation during punishment can look the same as physical abuse. So is alone in the corner the best place for [...]
Why parent positively? Here's one good reason to think about: Your Child's Self Esteem An act of comparison is ultimately an act of rejection, therefore accept your child for the unique individual they are. They are a once off happening that will never reoccur and your acceptance of them, results in them accepting themselves as [...]
Toddlers require huge patience and understanding due to limited language Want fewer Tantrums? Then give them a sense of being listened to & understood A toddler’s world is one of limited language which can lead to frustration as well as big emotions. Their feelings can sometimes be too much for them, but they cannot find [...]
We all want to be a happier parent and to enjoy happier children. 1. Ease up Easing up on yourself and others makes a huge difference in taking the pressure off. When we slow down and let some of the less important things go, we put the focus on the relationship rather than on behaviours. [...]
What mistake do parents make around discipline? Handling a child who is challenging, disruptive and acting up I meet parents on a 1:1 and every week, parents come to me about a child they are struggling with. They say he is disruptive, challenging and he acts up. They also usually say ‘he gets so much [...]
Positive Discipline: Top Tips Diffusing Conflict: The secret is if you are interacting well the majority of the time, conflict is something you get over easily, as the relationship is better and you ‘get back on track’ quicker. There is no one answer – but the tips listed below will work if you stay calm, [...]
Struggling with Temper Tantrums? Toddler Tantrums A client came back recently to advise that my advice worked on his toddlers temper tantrums which had been challenging to handle. When I asked what in particular had worked, this is what he said: Catch it earlier - before it builds up Distract the toddler Redirect the toddler's [...]
What is the why of the behaviour? Children's challenging behaviours Lovely story from a parent today which may help other parents. The school had called her about a project that had been due in. She confessed that usually she would have arrived home to her teenager 'guns blazing' to confront why the project has not [...]