This week I asked Parents for their feedback on how things had changed at home when they behaved differently after the first week of the Parenting course. Here are some quotes from Parents and links for further Parental Tips on these topics.
1. From a working parent who skips lunch and in office all day
“Taking time for lunch and a walk outside means at home I’m calmer, able to hit the PAUSE button rather than get involved in petty stuff. I find when I take time for me, I have time for my kids. I am calmer, less stressed and home is happier.”
2. Mum’s ‘clingy’ toddler who clung to her as she did chores
“I find that when I give my daughter attention, she’s no longer clingy and demands less attention. There is housework I did not get done but the reward is a happy child”.
3. When I realised that Respect starts with my interaction
“I spoke a lot more respectfully with my children and was amazed at the positive response to ‘I am a bit stressed and I would appreciate your help when you are finished’. Of course the harder part is they cannot always meet my needs. My need is mine and up to me to find a way to meet. Things are smoother – we had a good week.”
4. I observed my interaction with my child and made some changes
“Recognising that at times I may have been a little harsh I decided to make some small changes in my responses. The result was a day with my child that had no conflict and my child commented what a lovely day it was.”
5. I need to allow my child to express their feelings: “I want it!”
“Because of the course, I decided not to ‘lose it’ and tried to ‘say separate’, calm and empathise. My child did have a brief meltdown and I (barely) stayed calm, but I was amazed how quickly she bounced back with a tear and ‘I’m sorry Mummy’. We hugged and moved on. I see that when I stay in charge of my behaviour, I role model for her to do the same.”
6. Toddler tantrums
“When I thought about how I might feel at 2 years old being sent away to the naughty step, I realised I would feel rejected and bad about myself. Now, I let him have the meltdown, then open my arms and hold him, tell him I love him but that I do not like that behaviour. There are fewer tantrums and his behaviour has dramatically improved.”