With Internet Safety week and the governments new guidelines, it is a good time to look at ways to keep our children/teens safe online
Internet Safety for kids
We need to talk with our children/teenagers about being safe online. Children/teens need boundaries to feel secure. The minimum age for Facebook and U Tube is 13 years, however these are the top two sites for under thirteen’s, where they spend approx. eighty minutes a day online according to recent studies.
Ways to prevent cyber bullying
- Get under 13’s off Facebook, 13 is Facebook’s minimum age
- Know their passwords and Pin numbers and monitor
- Be upfront and tell them, ‘I will be checking your messages/history’.
- Do not be afraid to say no, to set limits & boundaries
- For younger children, buy phones without internet (Tesco €12)
- Broadband can be turned off at night (9pm/9am)
- ‘You may have a phone; however it must be charged downstairs at night’
- Use filtering software
Children internet safety
Younger children (under 13’s) on Facebook put up personal details, ‘friend’ strangers and put up identifiable photos – simply because they are too young. Ensure you are their ‘friend’ so you can follow them.
What is Cyber Bullying?
It is bullying carried out using Internet, mobile phone.
- It is psychological rather than physical
- Horrible messages/posts, e mails, photos, pictures
- Setting yourself up as someone else in a text message and being nasty
- Using someone else’s accounts to make trouble for them
- A once off incident is not bullying, but sustained, repeated & deliberate is.
Solutions to cyber bullying:
Talk with our child/teen about the consequences of making poor choices and to be careful not to get caught up in something they did not intend.
Cyber Bullying examples :How is the technology used to bully?
- To intimidate
- To impersonate by the setting up of a fake profile
- To exclude or block a person
- To humiliate someone by posting something to embarrass them
Cyber Bullying information: Online Bullying may be 24/7
The difference with cyber bullying is that the contact is 24/7, traditional bullying meant that home was a safe haven, now there is no safe haven as bullying comes into the phone, I touch or I pad at night and into your bedroom, and parents may be unaware that this is happening. When a comment is put up on Facebook, the speed of contact and the audience is huge.
Ways to prevent cyber bullying
Talk with your child/teen about the power and the responsibility of the bystander. Failure to speak up or report otherwise results in unintentional complicity. Teenagers questioned say they don’t speak up as they are afraid that they may be the bully’s next target, so remind them they can always ‘report and incident’ to a parent or teacher.
Internet Safety Cyber Bullying – how to stay safe online
‘Do not leave yourself vulnerable – think before you open a link or Like and ask ‘Am I opening myself up to others being able to comment/judge a post/photo/message?’
Parents need to tell their older children/teens that they are responsible for their actions. As a parent, no matter how much you want to turn back the clock you can’t and teens need to know therefore that the moment, they decide to hit the SEND or POST button that they will have to deal with the results of their actions.
Solutions for cyber bullying
Stop-(Go offline) Block – Report
- Do not respond
- Tell them ‘it’s not your fault’
- Keep the evidence- take a screenshot
- Tell an adult
- Block the sender
- Report (Gardaí/Mobile phone operator)
Internet safety Tips for Parents:
- Keep technology in open space for monitoring
- Empower your child/teen to report
- Discuss bullying behaviour with your teen
- Understand your child/teens online behaviour
- Ensure their Facebook profile is set to ‘private’
- Don’t post personal information (address/school etc.)
- Think before you post as you cannot get that photo back