Parents consistently say “that worked!”
Separation is a huge time of adjustment for parents and children.
Explain to your Child
Before the parent leaves, the child or teen needs an explanation. Not knowing is very difficult for a child, as I know from personal experience. My father’s suicide was not explained to me and unconsciously I knew my mother did not want […]
How do we build a habit of helping in the house?
Capable children are competent children
What kind of parent are you? Overprotective parents tend to say ‘I will do that; you are too small; let me do it’ to the child who ask ‘Can I do it?’. Overprotection disables children over time as children give up […]
Managing children’s challenging behaviours can be very challenging!
Understanding Challenging Behaviour
I worked with parents yesterday who were struggling to manage their son’s difficult behaviour. Many parents say ‘we have got into a negative spiral’. I asked them to try imagine how their child felt and they said ‘he probably feels constantly criticised and given out to’.
Parent is about guiding and teaching and less about discipline.
No More Naughty Step or Time Outs
According to a recent study featured in Time Magazine, brain scans show that relational pain –that caused by isolation during punishment can look the same as physical abuse. So is alone in the corner the best place for your children?
Parenting teenagers is not easy, Here are the parenting skills you need to help guide your teen to become a responsible adolescent.
1. Reducing Conflict with Teens
There are so many situations where we can end up in conflict with our teens on a daily basis. What else could we do that may help the situation. If what […]
Do you take care of yourself? If so it will be mirrored in how well you look after yourself on a daily basis
Physically: How do you take care of yourself ?
Moderate in food and alcohol?
Have you found an exercise you enjoy?
Do you push yourself too hard?
Do you rush and race, drive to fast?
Do you ask for […]
We all want to be a happier parent and to enjoy happier children.
1. Ease up
Easing up on yourself and others makes a huge difference in taking the pressure off. When we slow down and let some of the less important things go, we put the focus on the relationship rather than on behaviours. The stronger […]
Are you hard on yourself – you are probably hard on others too
Parents Relationship with Self – Accepting or Rejecting?
Self criticism is corrosive – becoming aware of the tendancy to blame self means with Awareness you can do something about it. You probably had a very critical parent – but was that what you needed […]
Parenting at exam time can be stressful, what makes things easier?
Leaving and Junior Cert Parenting tips
I remember being told that the Leaving Cert was a stressful year – having been through it twice with my two teenagers, I now see there are things you can do to keep a calmer house and support your exam […]