How to deal with conflict better
Calm is essential in managing conflict
Remain calm and approach calmly, remembering that your tone and your behaviour sets the tone. Therefore, be the change you want to see and if you want your child to calm down, then ask yourself, ‘how calm am I?’ Be a good role model, by […]
How to deal with conflict better
As the parent of teenage girls I am aware of the dangers of teenage drinking.
Relationship is No 1 between parent and teen
However, as I journey through the minefield that is parenting teens, I am more and more convinced that the strength of my relationship with them is ultimately the only real control I have over […]
I just encountered a woman at the supermarket, trying to do a large weekly shop with two toddlers, who seems to be managing well and it reminded me of the importance of being PROACTIVE in our parenting.
Steve Covey outlines this concept in his 7 Habit’s book outlines the Habit 1: Be Proactive
Be Proactive, or you […]
There are so many situations where we can end up in conflict with our children on a daily basis. What else could we do that may help the situation. If what you are doing is not working, you may need to do something different
How to manage conflict with your children
Be the change you want to […]
Just imagine you were two or three years of age and you were put out to sit on the Naughty Step by a very agitated parent , how would you feel?
When I ask parents this the responses are “Sad, upset, distressed, confused, alone, angry”.
TIME OUT not working?
Is there a better way? I think its the […]
“You love her more than me! Everything was fine till she came along, now everyone hates me!”
Sibling Rivarly: Child feel insecure about being loved
Imagine your husband comes home tonight with a tall Swedish blond and says: “You know I love you so much; I decided to get another wife just like you! But here’s the […]
Observe my responses and if they are defensive – it’s an offortunity to explore and an invitation to change
Relationship with self is key to effective parenting. If how I relate to myself is poor, then it is likely that my parenting is going to reflect that. If I am self critical, then I will […]
Ensure each child feels loved and ‘seen’ and sibling rivalry will reduce. The reality is that the more time you spend with your child, the less they will demand it through negative behaviour towards a sibling or towards you. The negative behaviour is a cry for help. Therefore, your response needs to be kind and compassionate.
Many parents have difficulty in dealing with behaviour that challenges them; so I invite you to deal with it differently this week.
Ironically,compassion is the No 1 response to difficult behaviour, when they deserve your love the least, they need it the most.Whether it is tantrums, aggression, uncooperative behaviour; see that the child is trying to […]
All Discipline begins with the Parent
What? Yes, the more undisciplined I am in my self; the more discipline issues I have with my children
How am I undisciplined? By pushing yourself too hard..
Examples: Not taking Time Out, poor Physical care of self,results in ‘losing it’ with the children, shout, Rant & Rave; getting up too late, frequently […]