In working with parents, I can see that most of the time when a child is behaving badly, they feel bad in themselves. It can be that they need more time and attention from the parent, and they have found a way to get attention, through their behaviour. Another way […]
Parents consistently say “that worked!”
Separation is a huge time of adjustment for parents and children.
Explain to your Child
Before the parent leaves, the child or teen needs an explanation. Not knowing is very difficult for a child, as I know from personal experience. My father’s suicide was not explained to me and unconsciously I knew […]
How do we build a habit of helping in the house?
Capable children are competent children
What kind of parent are you? Overprotective parents tend to say ‘I will do that; you are too small; let me do it’ to the child who ask ‘Can I do it?’. Overprotection disables children over […]
Managing children’s challenging behaviours can be very challenging!
Understanding Challenging Behaviour
I worked with parents yesterday who were struggling to manage their son’s difficult behaviour. Many parents say ‘we have got into a negative spiral’. I asked them to try imagine how their child felt and they said ‘he probably feels constantly […]
When do teens start drinking?
Headstrong, The National Centre for Youth Mental Health recently reported that for school teens, problems are most pronounced in third and fifth y and h year. Third year was identified as the most vulnerable year. Fifteen year old students are facing the Junior Cert, and it […]
What were things like in your family of origin? Many of us came from families where there was a ban on emotional expression. When you were upset, sad or disappointed, you may have found that the response was:
‘You can’t feel like that!’ (Your feeling is dismissed)
‘It’s not that bad!’ (Your […]
Parents need to mind themselves. Resilience is about looking after yourself. For many years I was not good at taking care of myself and this resulted in me running late, getting stressed, being impatient with my children and losing it from time to time. There are so many demands on us […]